#1. Lead by Example. Children
learn through modeling and the most effective way to influence them is not
through our words, but our actions and behaviors. Leading by example
requires that we first 'be' what we wish to bring out from them, and inspire
them through our being.
#2. Be Powered by Love.
In
Parents-as-Coaches, we view love as an
unconditional acceptance of our children and a willingness to extend ourselves
to nurture their spiritual growth. Accepting our children for who they are
liberates us from the desire to mould them into who they are not.
Being powered by love
also puts the child in the heart of a parent-child relationship such that our
actions are always centered around enhancing the well-being of the child.
#3. Nurture the Nature.
To nurture means to cultivate
from within, and not impose our values from the outside. We believe that all
children began with a seed of goodness. Our job is like that of a
gardener, nurturing the growth of the seedlings by providing the proper
nutrients, and weeding out negative influences where appropriate.
#4.
Be Guided by
Intention.
Being result-oriented is one
of the distinctive features of coaching. Begin with a clear intention followed
by a vision of what you and your child want to accomplish, and then translate it
into specific goals that are worth pursuing. Goals are important
guideposts that make the journey of growth meaningful.
#5. Focus on the Actions.
Action transforms reality.
A key aspect of coaching is about guiding our children to feel sufficiently
empowered to take actions so as to realize their goals and aspirations.
Their actions provide them with the feedback that is necessary for learning and
growth.
#6. Engage the Mind and Heart.
To influence and guide our
children, establishing and maintaining rapport is critical. We need to
constantly engage both their minds and their hearts, paying attention to their
inner thoughts and emotions that are often not reflected clearly in their
external behaviors.
#7. Enjoy the Journey.
Parenting is a privilege
for a life-long journey of joy and growth. Be present in your child's life
and enjoy the journey.
NOTE:
For a deeper and more
insightful appreciation of the practical application of The Seven Principles
of Coaching for Parents in bringing our the greatness in children, sign-up
for a short introductory course ~ Parents-as-Coaches101™.
